One of the essential components of communication is the ability to deliver your feelings and thoughts effectively. For many people, it is difficult to put ideas into words.
However, to be well understood by people, it is imperative to give light to your ideas, feelings, and thoughts. They do not deserve to be hidden all the time. They are meant to be felt and expressed. If you know how to express your thoughts and feelings explicitly, it will be helpful in personal, professional and social life.
Scientifically it has been proven that not expressing your emotions can lead to adverse psychological results. When you are not able to channelise your emotions and feelings, such as anxiety, it can lead to various physical problems like a fast heartbeat, breathing problems, excessive sweating, and others, which can further be concentrated in physical areas like face, neck, and spine.
To prevent yourself from physical and emotional pain, it is important to learn to express your emotions. Following are the steps that may help expressing your best thoughts out:
1) Emotions and thoughts should be identified
Whenever you feel some changes in your body and mind, just ask a few questions to yourself like: what am I feeling? what are the causes behind it? why is this happening?
2) Jot down your sensations
After identifying your feelings, you have to analyse what kind of sensation is created within you. List down all the emotions and see what exactly they are.
3) Your body’s reaction should be paid attention
Your feelings and emotions are difficult to control as these are regulated by the limbic and nervous system. Pay attention to how your body is reacting to all those emotions. Settle down your feelings and think about it calmly.
4) Your response to the situation
What makes you nervous is an important question. Is it the situation? Or your reaction to the situation? Observe yourself and answer this question.
The situation never makes a person nervous; it is always your response to the situation that is the root of the problem. The only solution to this is to change your reaction.
5) Emotions should be expressed in a correct proportion
By following the previous step, you will be able to control your emotions correctly. By understanding precisely the happenings and the consequences, you can express yourself more accurately.
6) Be honest
Express your emotions honestly. Do not ever try to be fake. Whenever you are annoyed, angry or irritated, never avoid a conversation. Instead try to understand yourself in a better way.
7) Always use a positive form of communication
Being positive helps a person a lot in expressing his/her feelings in a better way. Express your thoughts by using a positive tone, by making an eye contact, and listening to the other person actively.
8) Choose the best circumstances to be expressive
Before expressing your feelings, you need to choose the best situation for it. Analyse yourself, and the people around you and then decide what will be the best moment to express your feelings.
Sometimes your feelings and thoughts are not related to the present situation. They have nothing to do with one another.
Thoughts are a part of yourself, and you should accept it, just learn how to channelise them in the right direction.
Cherish all the feelings and remember that emotions are natural. We don’t need to struggle against them.
Just sit and relax and divert your mind to things that are important to you.